Tuesday, November 29, 2011
The stages in every relationship .
STAGE 1 (1-3 Months) : The Honeymoon Stage
Everything seems to be perfect , both are happy and feeling "in love" . You share moments , dates and just having fun with each other , sharing laughs and giggles . It's like nothing could stop you . Your feelings are infinite , and for once you're thinking , "This may work out ..." and it seems like nothing could go wrong . You spend hours getting ready before going out with this person .
*IF your relationship ended in this stage - Most likely , both rushed into the relationship too quickly . Being together was all too sudden and just for the moment . When one starts noticing the flaws , one gets a choice to move forward , back away . Being friends has a percentage of working out , but nothing to stress over . Both may just need a time to get to know one another better .
STAGE 2 (4-6 Months) : The Bumpy Road
Things are going okay now . The relationship is calm and settle ; both are still mostly happy . Had a couple arguments and disagreements here and there , nothing huge . Start to notice some of each other's flaws and aspects of their personalities not seen before , but still truly care for one another .
*IF your relationship ended in this stage - You truly cared about this person . You had the energy to fight for this person , yet you feel as if something was lacking , something was missing . It doesn't feel right , one isn't happy . When one isn't happy , one tends to walk away to seek their new happiness . Being friends is still a possibility .
STAGE 3 (7-12 Months) : The Rocky Mountain
You start to realize who your partner really is . A few more arguments may occur . Problems with jealousy , overprotecttiveness may arise . Other people may come in the picture . The "in love" moments starts to decrease , but you feel as if you've "fallen in love" . You tend to have this energy inside to strive and "make it work" , and you feel more comfortable being around this person , feeling more of yourself .
*IF your relationship ended in this stage - You feel as if you're hurt , depending on the circumstances . You're so sure that the person was "The One" . You were so sure that he/she was different . But like a cancer , a problem that may have happened , a small issue , grew into something larger that took over what was made between two people . You still miss this person from time to time . You still remember the memories . Being friends may be difficult right away , but over time , you slowly mature up , and learn the reality of it .
STAGE 4 (1 Year or More) : The Long Road
1 , 2 , 3 , 4 or 5 years huh ? This person truly means something to you . You are "in love" with person . He/she made a difference in your life . No one else knows you more than this person . You guys have been through the good , the bad and the ugly , and still strive to make it last .
*IF your relationship ended in this stage - You feel heartbroken ; it's tough . You can't sleep , can't eat , you miss him/her , you try t move on , you try meeting new people , but seems like nothing works . For whatever reason the split occured , it must've been something inportant , or something must have been so wrong that it took over . Being "just friends" is impossible , because if you try to be friends , you wouldn't be able to think of them in any other way besides the one you once "loved" .
NotaKaki : It doesn't matter how long you guys dah bersama or how long you guys can hold on to your relationship . As long as both side ada initiative untuk kekalkan hubungan korang tu , then everything korang bole lalui bersama . You'll stick together in any situation pun . Ada masa masa each other perlu jugak mengalah and appologize . Appologizing bukan bermaksud korang lemah dan sentiasa nak ikut kehendak your partner , cuma sometimes it means korang sanggup merendahkan ego untuk orang yang korang sayang dan you value your relationship so much .
ps : You know how much I love you kan sayang ? :D